tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982550097445166415.post7390474172486165336..comments2023-07-15T05:49:47.667-04:00Comments on Sisterhood: Closed heartssandyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03073425969014899940noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982550097445166415.post-19146924861232378212011-08-23T15:25:51.229-04:002011-08-23T15:25:51.229-04:00I'd like to comment from a different angle, fr...I'd like to comment from a different angle, from the heart of the one who IS the leader. I do believe in the day and hour in which we live, where transparency is almost demanded in our culture (people seek out transparent or open leaders, align themselves with them) leaders are faced with a decision to open up or lose. In general, people won't stay with us at least for a length of time if we remain closed. I am not speaking to the right or wrongness of this, simply the reality.<br /><br />What you have shared here is a very important word, Sandy. People in our world today seek out others who are wide open. Honestly, there have been times in the past when as a leader I shut down - was not at a healthy place. It cost me. I deeply regret it! That was years ago. My actions caused me to lose people from my team and more importantly from my life! Also the same walls that kept out the hurt kept out the love. What a lonely time that was. <br /><br />Times have further changed since then and I realize if I were to do the same thing now, with the way our culture has changed, the cost to me would be even greater. I'm glad I learned this lesson already, coming from the viewpoint of the one leading, it doesn't pay to shut down.Dr. Deanna DossShrodeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06651422170585497480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982550097445166415.post-64523215331000939432011-08-23T09:19:19.930-04:002011-08-23T09:19:19.930-04:00Wendy, yes I agree leaders get their heart trample...Wendy, yes I agree leaders get their heart trampled on all the time. Praying for our leaders is a win - win. Not only does it does it help them but also our hearts as well. It's hard to get a bad attitude toward someone that your praying for. It's hard to be disloyal to a person you are petitioning for in God's presence. Great point! thank you.sandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03073425969014899940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982550097445166415.post-85119364765404533792011-08-23T09:03:32.873-04:002011-08-23T09:03:32.873-04:00This is so true!! So many people have shut themsel...This is so true!! So many people have shut themselves off from others because of past hurts, and leaders tend to be the worst because they've been hurt so many times.<br />I believe the greatest thing you can do for a leader that has a closed heart, is pray for them! Pray that God will heal their pain and help them work through the forgiveness process.<br />The second greatest thing you can do is to be loyal to them at all costs! No gossiping or backbiting, just faithfully serve and respect them. Once they see your loyalty, that leader may begin to come around, soften their heart and begin to believe that they can trust again.Wendyhttp://www.wenderlynn.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com