The Mouth Trap

"A fool’s lips bring him strife, and his mouth invites a beating." Solomon
When we are negotiating we gotta know when to keep our trap shut. Cuz the only thing we are trapping is ourselves. 

My dad was one of the best business men I knew.  He could negotiate for hours and get exactly what he wanted.  One of his best techniques was not saying a word. He knew how to keep it shut.  
He had a saying “The last person to speak loses the deal.”  One time while buying a car he didn’t say anything for two hours.  We got the car and it was a great deal.
In Women’s Ministry we need to know how to negotiate. 
Put the Ego in Park
Nothing can take you out quicker than your own mouth engaged with pride.  Once the cat’s out of the bag, there is no putting it back.  Pride loves to talk. A big mouth showing off is a recipe for disaster.  Pride will loose a deal. Why? Because pride tells the salesman how much they got and false humility (pride too) tells how much they don’t got. Pride is not smart, use your brain when dealing with others. 
Lock Down Jabber Jaws
One of the greatest achievements the Bible prescibes is to bridle your tongue.  Speaking before your thinking gets you sinking.  Your words can be your greatest self destruct button.  Know when to keep it tight and let your brain collect the info you need.  Part of being a great conversationalist is being a great listener.  
Put Your Ears on Alert
Become a good listener, that’s why you got two ears and one mouth.  Listening conditions you to gather information before acting or making a decision that will make an impact. You will be much sharper when you are nourished with the right information and honed into a fine point through experience.  Listening helps you discern better.  
Look before you leap, learn before you speak and never put your mouth before your brain. 
Q4U:  Do you have a negotiating tip?


  1. Fantastic post. My negotiating tip IS silence, and I don't think I've ever heard it covered so well as you did in this post. Perfect.

  2. a fool has not interest in understanding it only wants to air its own opinion.

    god has been using proverbs 18 to teach me alot about this wisdom v foolishness. and just when i think i was doing ok (false humilty) u put this post up...and btw i said sometime about a week ago if i hear the one mouth two ears thing again i was gonna here it is ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRHHHHHHHHHHHHHH lol God has ways to even deal with the hardest of heads! thank you lord...i am learning to be a better listner...hopefully before it costs me everything.

  3. Yes Deanna, silence is the golden rule. Another tip I learned was "always be prepared to walk away." That one is just as tough as the keep the trap shut. LOL (especially when it's the perfect size an color)

  4. I too have been in a season of Proverbs. It's nice to know I wasn't the only one. And yes I said the same thing - so I'll scream with you Blog2God. AARRRGHHH! okay now that is out of the way. What if we did a whole pride vs humility series? Oh Lord have mercy on us! Here let's scream together (on three) one - two - three - AARRRGHHGHGH!


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